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Motivation, Achievement and Recovery

Motivation Achievement Recovery

The work I do with my clients focuses on Motivation, Achievement and Recovery aspects of their lives.  I thought I would take a minute to explain this.

If you were to come to me with a change you want to make, the first place I’d start with you is assessing your Motivation to change.  You have already sought out my services, so you are aware of what you want, but you haven’t yet been able to put any action into your change. I will assess and guide you through mindfully identifying and working through your obstacles to action until you are ready to put the change in motion.

The Achievement aspect of my work focuses on helping you design realistic and attainable short-term goals in addition to more grandiose long-term goals.  These goals will be measurable and designed to keep you motivated.

Recovery means a lot of things to a lot of people.  Traditionally, recovery refers to persons “in recovery” from addictions.  Yes, I do a lot of addiction recovery work with my clients, however, the term recovery can also mean recovery from a trauma, recovery from a relationship break-up, or recovering from some other type of loss.  Very often, we don’t realize just how much emotional stress we carry around everyday which can block us in the area of motivation by way of emotional obstacles we need to overcome.

I see motivation, achievement and recovery as a cumulative work process.  If one does not recover adequately from traumas. break-ups, addictions or what have you, there will most likely be motivational blocks in the form of emotional obstacles (apathy, depression, panic or anxiety,etc.) which will leave you struggling to achieve the changes you wish to implement in your life.

If this connects with you and you’d like to find out more, please contact me through my website: CoachingThroughChaos.com or call me at (619) 702-5571.

Please share this post with anyone you think may benefit from my services.  Thank you!

Best wishes for success!

Dr. Colleen Mullen, Psy.D., LMFT

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Dr. Colleen Mullen, Psy.D., LMFT

Some of the Research behind the Masters & Disasters of Relationships!

As you may have read on my website CoachingThroughChaos.com, I practice Gottman Method Couples Counseling.  This is a research-based method for helping couples feel closer, decrease physiological reactivity, and communicate in ways successful couples do.  When Dr. John Gottman was gathering his research over the last 40 years, he helped couples go from being “Disasters” to “Masters” in the area of successful  relationship skills.  The following article explains some of the science behind the Masters and Disasters concept.

If you relate to what you read and want to now more, I’d be happy to tell you more about it!

The Science Behind Lasting Relationships

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Believe in yourself!

success factor is self-esteemI often have to remind my clients that during their process of growth, they may be their only cheerleader because they are the ones invested in their change. If you are filled with self-doubt, your process will be more difficult.  We all have self-doubt – its just a matter of making the confident voice in your head the loudest one 😉

Self-Employed Day Off?

As a therapist, I work with people all the time helping them “set limits” or structure their time accordingly for self-care, focusing on helping them achieve balance in their life.  Being self-employed, I’ve had to remind myself of my own advice.  I’m currently in the office only 3 days per week – which, on paper, looks like I’d have  A LOT of free time.  I wish!! I just ended a 5 hour writing session for a 1-day class I’m teaching in a few weeks.  I thought it was going to take about 3 hours in total ….& I’m only halfway done!  Friday, I will spend a couple of hours completing my billing & making sure all my paperwork is done for the week.  I’m also working on some new marketing strategies that I need to develop which will involve: phone calls, personal meetings, letter writing, maybe a free lecture or two, & designing new cards & brochures.  In the end, I pretty much work at least a little bit 6 days a week. I truly try not to touch work materials on Sundays, but I won’t say that keeps my mind off of thinking about work.  I’m fortunate in that I  can only be in my office 3 days per week so that I have the time to be the one-woman-show that I am and work on all the background items that keep me running & generate new business.  I do find time to spend with my husband, exercise, and fuss around with my garden so I feel that I have a fair balance in my life, but all this got me thinking about people’s expectations of being self-employed.

If you are self-employed (1 person business or a small venture), what were some of the biggest surprises/adjustments to your life that are due to being self-employed?  What are ways that you separate yourself from your work?  If you were to be given a “do-over” would you have changed anything about the employment path you chose?

For the record, I would never change anything about my decision to be self-employed, but I have learned some lessons along the way about how to do it!

Ill be interested to hear what your thoughts! Please comment!Monstar working This is my little sidekick Monstar who is always willing to help me work! 🙂

Seizing opportunities!!

Check me out on Sherry Gaba’s website.  Sherry is the therapist on “Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew”.  This was the very first blog post I ever wrote! Thanks Sherry for the opportunity!

Colleen

http://www.sherrygaba.com/blog/accepting-fear-to-find-success-by-colleen-mullen-psy.d.-lmft