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The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast – Check it out!

 

Coaching Through Chaos Podcast

 

 

I launched the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast – Bringing You what you need to Succeed in June on CoachingThroughChaos.com and on Bloomberg Radio 1110AM KTEK Houston’s Priceofbusiness.com.

The show is designed to bring you information and resources to empower you, educate you and enhance your life.  Once a month I’m going to a feature a resource specific for our Veterans and their families.  The episodes are 30 minutes long & launch each Tuesday along with an article on the subject on CoachingThroughChaos.com.

Guest line up so far:

Dr. Mark Wiederhold of the Virtual Reality Medical Center

Dr. Harry Haroutunian, the Physician Director of the Betty Ford Center

Darlene Lancer, LMFT, author of “Codependency for Dummies

Ret. Detective Mike Proctor, expert/author of “Antidote for a Stalker

Andrew Chang, Managing Partner of Eastern Foundry talking about their Foundry Cup competition for new tech to help our veterans with PTSD

Amy Morin, LCSW, best-selling author of “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

Jeff Motske, CFP, radio host & author of “The Couples Guide to Financial Compatibility

Melanie Notkin, best-selling author,entrepreneur talking about her book, “Otherhood“.

Stewart Levine, expert/author of “Getting to Resolution

Sasha Ginsberg, LCSW talking about mental wellness treatment at Westside DBT.

Shelly Davidescu, LMFT, therapist and entrepreneur talking about her Clean Forks program for female entrepreneurs.

Vahakn Matossian talking about the developments at HumanInstruments.co.uk and how they are making a difference in physically-challenged musicians lives.

The developers of the PocketLabApp bringing new ways for therapists to help their clients through their iphone.

 

If you want to follow me between episodes, please sign up for my mailing list at CoachingThroughChaos.com/podcast.  As a thank you for signing up, you’ll receive a FREE download of my ebook, “5 Ways: 100 Tips for Living a Happier, Healthier Life“.

If you have  ideas for guests, or if there’s a guest you’d like to hear from, let me know. I’m happy to take your suggestions.

If you know someone who continues to struggle with the same emotional mistakes over and over – whether it’s work, relationship or addiction problems, or depression, anxiety or past trauma gets in the way of them living a more fulfilling life, please send them the link to CoachingThroughChaos.com – we’d like to help 🙂

Colleen Mullen, Psy.D., LMFT

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Want more relationship satisfaction? Avoid “The Four Horsemen”!

Dr. John Gottman’s research on relationships has lead to his uncovering of 4 predictable relationship killers – he coined them “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”.  They are Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling & Contempt. This animated video was recently released by The Gottman Institute to explain how the Four Horsemen can really spell trouble for your relationship.

If you’d like to know more, I practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy and would be happy to teach you some more effective ways of communicating with your partner.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is&feature=youtu.begottman watching 4 horseman cartoon

picture credit: The Gottman Institute

Some of the Research behind the Masters & Disasters of Relationships!

As you may have read on my website CoachingThroughChaos.com, I practice Gottman Method Couples Counseling.  This is a research-based method for helping couples feel closer, decrease physiological reactivity, and communicate in ways successful couples do.  When Dr. John Gottman was gathering his research over the last 40 years, he helped couples go from being “Disasters” to “Masters” in the area of successful  relationship skills.  The following article explains some of the science behind the Masters and Disasters concept.

If you relate to what you read and want to now more, I’d be happy to tell you more about it!

The Science Behind Lasting Relationships

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Don’t Think Too Much!

I hear so many stories of misunderstandings or feelings of contempt in couples due to “over-thinking”. The old saying “Sometimes less is more” rings appropriate in these situations. Have a good weekend….& don’t think too much 😉

dont think too much - will create problems not there

5 Ways to Resolve Conflict

1. Identify the problem.
2. Speak with a purpose. Think before you speak.
What is the point you are trying to make?
3. State your viewpoint clearly and concisely.
4. Keep your tone calm. Two (or more) persons speaking loudly in order to be “heard” are rarely listened to.
5. Be gracious no matter what the outcome. It is alright to agree to disagree. Conflicts are not contests, the goal is not to win, it is to resolve a problem.