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Who I am

Hi Everyone! Colleen here.

I’m a Licensed Psychotherapist in private practice San Diego California. I hold a Doctorate Degree in Marriage & Family Therapy. I’ve helped people with all sorts of problems over the years. It’s been challenging and rewarding, often at the same time.

My practice is currently divided with a focus between my two passions.  The first is what I call Motivation, Achievement & Recovery Coaching.  The Coaching side of my practice is geared towards people who already have a sense of where they are going in life, but can’t seem to get over some emotional hurdle, leaving them stuck in a position they don’t want to be in.

I enjoy working with business owners, athletes, musicians, actors, and professionals who need help managing their stress when others are counting on them to perform at the top of their game. As a child/teenager I was a competitive pianist, performing and competing against others. I know about the pressure to learn your material, the expectations of performing on cue and high level competitions.  I know how crucial it is to be able to stay clear-minded and present in the moment so that the distractions of life don’t get in the way of the performance. I help others learn the skills necessary to improve their performance, decrease performance anxiety, decrease/extinguish self-medication behaviors and achieve a healthy self-perspective.

My second passion is my work with couples.  I especially enjoy working with couples when either 1 or both partners have struggled with an addiction. I practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy.  Gottman Method Couples Therapy utilizes evidence-based Assessment and Intervention strategies to evaluate, educate and repair interaction between couples that often leads to divorce. Drs. John & Julie Gottman have named “The 4 Horsemen”:

  • Defensiveness
  • Stonewalling
  • Criticism
  • Contempt

The Gottmans are the preeminent researchers of marriage. Some of their books are:

  • “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”
  • “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail”
  • “The Relaiotnship Cure”

As of Oct. 2014, I will have completed the 3-part intensive Gottman Institute training. Only therapists who have participated in the Gottman Institute trainings have access to the evidence-based Gottman Method tools. If you’ve been to other marriage therapists without success, take a look into the Gottman Method. I’d be happy to talk with you further about the process.

My website is CoachingThroughChaos.com.   My intention is to utilize this blog to bring you tips, interesting insights and information pertaining to success strategies, relationships, recovery from addictions and other self-sabotaging behaviors.


I look forward to becoming part of the blogging community!colleen at xmas

If you are in need of coaching or counseling support and you would like to ask me about my services, please contact me using the form below.  Thank you!


Comments on: "Who I am" (6)

  1. This is great! I would suggest breaking it in to paragraphs, because it’s a little overwhelming to read as-is. You could add lists or what not, just so it’s easier!


  2. Thanks for the feedback!


  3. Interesting reading. Nice choice of theme … it’s fresh!

    I’m sure the job must be rewarding at times. A couple where only one is an addict, that’s tough.


    • Thanks! & yes it can be tough, but it’s pretty typical, so it gets relaly complex when the addict gets recovery – the other person usually doesn’t know what to do when their partner is now a healthy, functioning person and the relationship that they thought would get better, very often gets worse in early recovery unless both people do some work on themselves. . I love the complexity.


      • I imagine the roles change entirely, after a certain amount of time.

        The non-addict can _never_ understand fully what the addict is going through, and the addict is too tied up in the drugs/booze/whatever, so it has taken over his/her thought pattern.

        Taking it from there to some kind of normalcy … I can’t even imagine. I would actually have more faith in a couple where _both_ were recovering addicts.

        It’s really interesting! 🙂


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